You are trying to get everything finished up and at the table so your family can sit down to eat the meal you prepared, and as you start to pour your kiddo a glass of milk, your phone rings, startling you, and you miss the glass. “Oh my gosh. I am so stupid!”
You are finally home, but you’re distracted and-BAM- take your side mirror off as you pull into the garage. “Ughhh! You have GOT to be kidding me?! I can’t do ANYTHING right!”
While speaking in front of others, you start to stutter and say a word that has never existed-until you said it just now!! “I am so crazy. Why can’t I just SPEAK?”
Can you empathize with any of the above situations? Could you add quite a list of your own? Is it fair to say that you would NOT speak to your best friend, or your spouse or child in that way, yet you do it to yourself over and over again?
Proverbs 18:21a says “The tongue has the power of life and death.”
Solomon does not mean that words can LITERALLY kill someone, but man, they sure can hurt a soul. And yes, you can hurt your OWN self by reciting these malicious words to yourself over and over and over.
I turned to Ol’ Google to find out what it had to say about negative self-talk. The preview text that popped up on Psychology Today had me immediately clicking on the article. “What most people don’t see is that all negative self-talk does is steal.”
Wait a minute! Hit the brakes!! Read that sentence again and see if ONE little word stands out to you as much as it did me. Did you find it? STEAL. Let’s go on and see what else the article has to say.
“It steals your attention from the present, by helping you stay stuck in the past. It steals your happiness because you can’t focus on the good things when your mind is clouded by the negatives. It steals your relationships, your hopes, your opportunity for better things.”
I don’t know about YOU, but I remember the culprit behind every theft. It’s the enemy. The devil.. Jesus Himself tells us that in John 10:10 “The thief comes ONLY to steal and kill and destroy; I (Jesus) have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”
So every single negative word you say against yourself, not only is it from your very worst enemy, it’s not what God thinks of you. You were made in HIS image. Ephesians 1:1-14 is a GREAT read if you want to see JUST how much GOD LOVES YOU! Knowing just how much He loves you and that HE chose YOU, should have a huge impact on you. Rid your mouth of this yucky negative talk, because you will start to believe it after just a handful of times. Instead, print off some positive, scriptural declarations, and read them aloud to yourself-while standing in front of a mirror. Yes, I mean that.
I challenge you to read the Ephesians passage I mentioned above and then in the comments below or email me, if you feel comfortable, let me know how that passage affects YOU emotionally.