Anxiety is an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure.
I battled anxiety my whole childhood. Trauma’s have a way of doing that. I was constantly looking over my shoulders. Scared to be too loud or to draw attention to myself.
If nobody notices me, I can’t get in trouble!!
Then you grow up and at your job, you are the overachiever because you don’t want anyone thinking badly of you. You don’t want them to think of you as a slacker.
Then you become a parent and your mind just nearly blows UP. You’re the parent that puts your kid in the bubble like a hamster and won’t let them out of the house. Okay, maybe you’re not THAT bad, but you still realize that you’re a little bit of a helicopter parent.
I am. This day and age, it’s hard NOT to be.
At our old house, the bedrooms were ALL upstairs except the master. I would lie awake praying fervently that the house would NOT catch on fire. We went through fire drills. Discussed which window would be the best window to exit the second story and why. Typing this out is making my stomach hurt!! We check the smoke detector batteries regularly and all that jazz. Necessary discussion? Yes. Overboard stressing? YES! We lived there for 2 years and I thought about it nearly every night. Obsessed about it every night. The last 6 months or so I began to quit stressing over it so much.
What changed? I decided to take charge of my HEALTH, and that included my MENTAL health. Is it healthy to stay up 2 hours past your “bedtime” stressing over something that most likely wont happen? Today I will list 5 main things I do to help combat my anxiety.
First point: I took away some unnecessary stresses. I made BOUNDARIES with toxic people. I utilized God’s creations to calm my brain down. Chamomile tea, for instance. I use a special sleep balm at night that helps me to fall asleep easier and STAY asleep. This helps my body get the rest it needs so it’s ready to go the next day! Exhaustion just adds to your already anxious/depressed mind. So sleep-GOOD sleep is IMPORTANT. If you are struggling with falling asleep and/or staying asleep, you reach me and can find out more here.
Second: this special oil blend I have does a really great job in grounding me when my brain starts to spiral. A lot of times I will apply it like perfume on my wrists and then breathe it in for a few seconds before I do my quiet time. Then I can associate the HAPPY smell with a GOOD feeling! When my anxiety starts to kick in, I can grab my happy oils and breathe it in deep and it soothes my soul and helps a LOT. If this is something you’re interested in, you can find out more here too.
Third: Unplug. Leave your phone in your bedroom and go be PRESENT and just chill with your family. Just doing simple family things can help you SO MUCH. If you are constantly reading something on social media or the news or whatever it is you do from your phone: one, you’re not present with your spouse and kids and that DOES take a toll, and two, you become impatient and anxious because you’re trying to READ THIS ONE THING (which ends up being more than one) and your kids/spouse are talking to you and you get distracted so you snap. Familiar? Yeah, set.your.phone.down. What’s more important than your family? (I can be SO BAD at this.)
Fourth: Water and Healthy Foods. My husband noticed that if we went multiple days of eating out, he felt his anxiety was worse. I had NOT picked up on that because I just felt crazy all the time LOL. Sad but true. So I made a point for us to eat ONLY things from home and I realized I was NOT near as depressed OR anxious. Whaaaaaat?? (I’m going to do a post on JUST THIS one of these days!!) Ditch your cokes (which is ANY type of soda when ya live in the south 😉😋 and trade it for WATER. Good, filtered, CLEAN water.
Fifth: The last BUT NOT LEAST thing I do is PRAY and READ. Really this is the MOST important step. Sometimes I just ask God to direct me where to read in His Word because my brain is so out of control that I can’t even make such a simple decision as that. Can you relate? I know it sounds crazy, but every time I’ve asked Him that, I have literally turned to a page where the words just jump out at me like they were written thousands of years ago just for ME!! It is mind-blowing that our Creator loves us so much that He can and WILL help us in all these ways. I have always heard there are more than 365 different scriptures telling us “Do not be afraid” or “Do not worry” but recently read there are actually more like 500 different varying commands just like those two. Nonetheless, HE KNEW we would struggle with that! Notice I said “command.” Because it IS a command. What good ever comes from worrying? Nothing. It changes nothing about the circumstance, but IT DOES cause stress on your body which isn’t healthy for your mind OR body.
I’d like to end this post with some scriptures for you to hold fast to today and every day.
Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
The commands “Do not fear. Do not be dismayed.”
Why should be follow His commands? “For I (God) is with you.” “I will strengthen and help you.”
God. The CREATOR of the entire UNIVERSE. The God who knows how many hairs on your head, and my head, and every other person’s head on this planet; knows how many stars He created and the sands of ALL the shores. HE has YOU in HIS RIGHT HAND.
The magnitude of that verse is almost impossible to comprehend.
When you are overwhelmed with worry and angst and anxiety in this world, take it to GOD, because He has you IN HIS HAND!!
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